It will be insurmountable to me, because it is not my family.

But you are their daughter. They expect you to take on a large responsibility without any knowledge of the occupation itself, and attempt to force you down by having someone spy on you.

Don't you think that they do it, because they know you'll just bend over and allow them to?

If such a thing has happened before, then I think the greatest shock would be if you continued to try to work, regardless of who is following you.